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Psychopaths and Love

  Psychopaths and Love One thing I’ve heard a lot about from psychopaths is that the person they fall in love with tend to have specific traits that are rare — but they love those traits specifically because of what it gives to the psychopath — thereby not actually loving the person for who they are but more what they provide. Those traits are typically: Someone that will put up with their shit because they know they see themselves as above the law and don’t have follow the rules that they expect everyone else to follow — it is very rare finding someone that will have this trait but its not the person that is loved its the fact that the person won’t leave while they treat them like garbage. The person is mentally resilient enough to put up with the ‘boredom’ tortures that the psychopath unleashes on them. When they get bored its like acid in the veins and for some reason nearly universally, it’s attacking the psychology or causing reactions out of their partner because it entertains th
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The Secret to Making It Work with a Covert Narcissist

  The Secret to Making It Work with a Covert Narcissist Photo by Randy Jacob on Unsplash If you are someone that is in love with your covert narcissist then there is one secret tactic that you’ll absolutely need to have in place if you are going to last any length of time with your self-esteem and self-worth intact. You love your narcissist. You love it when we make you feel special and you feel like you are elevated when you are with us. Like the two of us form an elite team that is better than everyone and you’re proud to be part of something so awesome that it makes you feel great. We have an energy and a presence when we enter into any room and it seems like people want to hear what we have to say - they seem value you a little more for some reason and it seems like they look up to us in some way because of our relationship.. It’s all very strange but somewhat intoxicating as well. Its the illusion that you buy into. The only problem is that Ineed to pick apart the things that you
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What you need to know about Codependency

  What you need to know about Codependency Photo by Morgan Housel on Usplash Attachment Style Codependency roots from an attachment trauma that a child received in their early years. There are many different causes for attachment trauma ranging from neglect, to child abuse, to the main caregiver becoming ill or hurt, necessity for survival (working for food), to the baby itself being sick or in a lot of pain. Codependency typically accompanies an anxious style of attachment. It is the inverse of narcissism because the narcissists attachment trauma typically manifests itself in an avoidant attachment style. Once a child has an anxious attachment style — if they have any instability at home or some perceived threat to their security they will often move into a people pleaser role growing up. They will attempt to take care of the needs of their caregiver or to avert disturbing temper flares by catering to them and by being the good child at the beckon call of the parent. Arise my People P
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Dark Psychology - Manipulation

  Dark Psychology There are many different psychological mechanisms that are  present in society on a daily basis.    These mechanism utilize a person's fears and their ability to interpret messages that their aggressor wishes for them to have.    Everywhere from the office to the club, to your very own home, you are subjected to various forms of manipulation from people.     Manipulation has a bad rap.    People believe that manipulation is a bad thing because of how it makes them feel when they find out that they have been manipulated.   People get upset because it makes them feel like a lesser person, like they have been victimized in some way, and often like they are not intelligent.    Manipulation can be used for good purposes however.    In the case of a newborn baby the very first thing it learns how to do in order to survive is to cry.    By crying they trigger their mother to come and take care of their needs.   They learn this extremely quick and it is a normal behavior
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Why is there an addiction to narcissistic partners?

Why is there an addiction to narcissistic partners? This is just my personal theory on the topic as I’ve thought a lot about variances of this question and my own situation. This is what I have come up with as to why:  Enmeshment - enmeshment often gets spoken about from the abusers perspective. Where they purposefully inject themselves into someone else's life and take control and influence over everything and using it as a means to isolate them from their supports. There is a different version of enmeshment that occurs with narcissism that has the narcissist get their significant other into all of the aspects within the narcissists life. So, they assign them duties and tasks that are integrated right into the narcissists life. These keep getting added on as the relationship continues and more and more of these aspects of the narcissists life becomes the significant others responsibility. It can get to the point where the significant other has no time at all for the things they
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Are there other ways in which narcissistic rage manifests besides yelling and arguing?

 Are there other ways in which narcissistic rage manifests besides yelling and arguing? Photo by Kristina Flour on Unsplash Yes, the rage can manifest itself in the worst way imaginable. Silence. But oh no, not the silence you they use as punishment during a normal drag you down cycle. This one is special. In the immediate moments after a narcissistic injury is sustained and their emotions become dysregulated there can almost be a frantic grasping at reasons and connecting of events to outcomes that never even occurred all with the sole purpose of offloading as much fault and blame onto you as possible. Its almost like the shame meter hits a tipping point and there is an overspilling of shame that has to go somewhere so it is going to you. You will be blamed for things that you were not even present for and deals/agreements made will be completely spun another way to place you as a doer of wrongs. You might get told to never talk to them again or they will file a restraining order on
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Gaslighting - rewriting history by changing your memories

  Gaslighting — The Rewriting of History Photo by  Toa Heftiba  on  Unsplash I would suspect that if you are aware of gas lighting then you’re aware of how most abusers use it to try to get out of trouble and to try to flip the script so that you’re the one that is on defense. They try to make it so that they never have to feel that shame and they never have to be the bad guy. They can be the perpetual victim and they can always be the one telling the sob story for the sympathy hit, or they can be the justified avenger that finally had enough. In all cases you’re the bad guy and they are the good guy but, it’s petty enough and childish enough that it doesn’t really effect you, despite the annoyance of someone denying what you know to be true. True gaslighting is much more insidious than that. If you’re truly the target of someone with real malintent in mind then this person will sadistically try to break you down mentally and emotionally with the ultimate goal of complete control over
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How is a narcissist affected by someone who rejects them romantically?

 How is a narcissist affected by someone who rejects them romantically? Photo by  Warren  on  Unsplash I have a slightly different take on this one than most people. Usually, people believe that narcissists think that they're God's gift to the earth which they do create that aura around them. They do talk like they believe it and they do act like they believe it. So as a result, people believe that why narcissists react so horribly to the rejection of a romantic interest is because they cannot accept that somebody wouldn't want them. I believe it's the other way around. I believe that for the vast majority of narcissists their fear of rejection is rooted in their childhood. They are actually hurt when they're acting this way because it actually touches a core wound of theirs around rejection. It touches that wound around why they actually have low self-esteem and don't believe in themselves. This is the true route of why they can't let it go. The other ones
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Is it Good to be a Psychopath?

  Is it good to be a psychopath? Photo by Sivani Bandaru on Unsplash People often treat psychopathy like it’s some type of super power. As if it makes for a superior human being because of the lack of fear and the inability to manipulate them through emotional appeals. Sure, they have an edge when it comes to escalating things as nothing scares them so they naturally are able to keep cranking up the stakes until you can’t escalate anymore. That is an advantage. Taking things to the extreme is what they are good at, while ensuring that they are in a power position over whomever they are dealing with. If they can’t be in a power position then they’ll never get involved. This is why it’s so hard to beat a psychopath. If you’re in a winner takes all situation you can bet that they feel like they have some edge on you so you need to think really hard about what is going on in order to see why they feel that way, or else you’ll find yourself screwed in the end. The psychopath is the expert i
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Laws Against Narcissism

 Laws Against Narcissism Photo by Tingey Injury Law Firm on Unsplash Judiciary Law This is a tough issue to grapple with as a whole but there is a very specific reason as to why there can’t be laws against narcissistic abuse and by connection conviction for insidious narcissistic abuse. Okay, first — why this can’t be done. There are laws in place already which cover narcissistic abuse. They are called laws. They apply to narcissists and regular people, and they are to be applied without bias and to the appropriate extent as interpreted by a judge often by past precedent. The crux of this problem is simplified like this: A regular person is found guilty of manslaughter and goes to jail for 5 years A narcissist is found guilty of manslaughter and goes to jail for what? 8 years? Why would narcissistic manslaughter be worth more than regular manslaughter? What’s the difference that would necessitate a longer sentence? We have laws against attacking someone, we have laws against murder, st
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What are the weak spots on a malignant covert narcissist and how might they be exploited?

 What are the weak spots on a malignant covert narcissist and how might they be exploited? Photo by  Erik Mclean  on  Unsplash What I'm about to stay here only applies to those people that are malignant narcissists that do not get violent. This is not applicable to anybody that has a history of violence or has the propensity to become violent. With a malignant narcissist, just like with the other narcissistic subtypes their issue and blind spots are all self-esteem related. All of their motives and actions are self-esteem related. Their weak spots are self-esteem related. If you want to harm them you have to target their self-esteem. You have to target embarrassment. You have to make them feel bad about themselves in a way that they can't deflect it. One thing that works well is public embarrassment by bringing up their failures or flaws openly. Their defenses will not work in this situation as they can't deflect other people's opinion of them. Their weak spot is in how
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